Maintain a loving human relationship with a partner

True love can only flow when both partners permanently are open for God ! but a relationship to persist all troubles of life, all downs, all "bad times" all wars and crisis of creation needs more than just a bare "IDEA" of "I love you".

a relationship of love - with friends or with your beloved "one and only" living partner - is like a flower or a tree. it needs "food" and loving care and time to grow strong and become of lasting nature - tested by hurricanes and darkness of life.
let's have a look at a tree, a walnut tree, for example.

* first you take a strong and good looking walnut and put it in a suitable place in a suitable soil
* then you assure no one else is interfering with that location - you protect the location
* then you assure that there is always sufficient sunlight, fresh air and permanently moist soil as needed and you wait while water - air and sun is acting - together with all the cosmic forces from God
* after a few weeks or month you may see the sprout coming out of the surface - and the walnut becomes NOW even more fragile. for a long period of time and will have many natural enemies, beetles, cows, wild rabbits and many other animals may like to feed on that young sprout of a walnut tree.
* it grows centimeter by centimeter during the first year and may reach 20cm or 30cm or more by the end of the first year.
* year after year it will grow and get stronger - but it always needs on a VERY regular basis - scheduled by nature's need - water, sun, air and many minerals and other nutrition.
* after 10 to 15 years this tree may hopefully start to have the first fruits - walnuts
* with 20 - 30 years such a tree may be strong enough for many children to climb up and play without causing any permanent damage to that tree.

what is all involved in ANY tree or flower or plant to grow and prosper and blossom or carry fruits - and how does such a herbal example compare to human relationship ?

things we never imagine and think of when we all enjoy nature. dozens of minerals ( vitamins ), water of particular quality, rain for the leaves, microorganisms, living and clean soil of particular quality, Prana ( cosmic life force ), direct personal attention, supervision, protection and care if every tree shall survive and grow as well as possible ...
A relationship needs to meet or supply the basic needs of each human - man or women
when you realize how much tender loving care one single plant needs if you want to assure that each single plant survives - then you get an idea how much daily love and care is needed to maintain a relationship and let it grow stronger than all evil forces around - here on earth as well as in all creation - for now and all eternity.

take care of all your beloved ones - remember - in all creation survival is but a question of the strength and purity of your love - love needs to flow to grow - love needs to be dynamic and varied - but always as direct as possible.

here on earth - a relationship without daily care and direct love is like a young plant in the desert of Sahara in a hot and cold sand-storm. no chance to survive or even grow strong. a relationship without daily mutual experiences and loving care is scheduled to break apart.

... when is just a question of how much loveless relationship you can "tolerate" before your hunger for true love causes you to be honest and loyal to your innermost being and to find the strength to re-orient yourself toward a new relationship - focusing on love and nothing but divine love in all your mutual efforts of life.
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